My friend Courtney, 27, lives in North Carolina and is a professor at a private college. He has been in a relationship with a young man (yes, a student but not his student) for the past two years. In that time he has grown to love Amil and Amil, I think, loves him in return. Courtney has never had reason to mistrust Amil but after watching Tyler Perry’s Why Did I Get Married Two, he decided to check Amil’s blackberry. And he found some very questionable messages from a young lady.
Courtney confronted Amil and Amil confessed to an ongoing affair with his ex-girlfriend.
Hmmm…
A little background on Amil. He’s a 22 year old scorpio who has slept with men his entire life, but who has also slept with women. He claims he’s bisexual and can’t get pussy out of his system. That’s the excuse he gave Courtney for cheating.
Courtney called me for advice and I just listened. I am honestly baffled about what he should do. I never recommend breaking up. My motto is always “breaking up is not an option.” But in this case…
Any thoughts out there?
7 comments:
OK BUT IF HE MADE THE DECISION TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A MAN THIS TIME AROUND....WHY IS HE PLAYING GAMES....SEE HE WOULDNT FEEL SO NICE IF THE SHOE WAS ON THE OTHER FOOT!
BUT THATS WHAT HE GETS WHEN HE MESSES AROUND WITH YOUNG ASS BOYS. THEY DO NOT KNOW WHAT THEY WANT...YOUNG DUMB AND FULL OF CUM AND ALWAYS TRYNA GET SUM!
HE NEEDS TO LET THAT CHILD GROW UP WHICH IS WHY HE IS THE PROFESSOR AND THAT CHILD IS SOMEBODY'S, GOD HELP WHOMEVER IT IS, STUDENT!
I haven't seen the movie yet, but I doubt if your friend actually got the idea to check his boyfriend's phone based on the movie; he must have been entertaining some thought of infidelity all along.
BTW: Both of them should talk it over and perhaps work out some mutual terms, there is always the possiblity of just being sex partners. In the affairs of the heart there are no rules.
He should let this one instance of dishonesty pass (if this is the first time something like this has occurred). The boy is only 22, and as a 22-year-old, I know how confused and unsure we can be in the realm of intimate relationships. We are still emotionally growing and many of us are still trying to find ourselves. As a 27-year-old professor, I am sure Courtney understands that. I commend Amil for telling the truth when he was confronted. Doesn't that stand for something? If it happens again, Courtney should, in the words of Miss Vivica Fox, have Amil put that WHERE, all the way BACK THERE. Secondly, if this continues to bother Courtney (Chet brought up notion that Courtney could have been entertaining the possibility of Amil's unfaithfulness for some time), Courtney should, again, put that where, back there. It doesn't make sense to be in a relationship where one doesn't feel as if he can trust the other. Mind you, Amil did admit he is bisexual, so the ball is really in Courtney's court. Courtney needs to figure out whether he will be able to deal with the fact that every once in a blue Amil likes a little fish on the side.
Get out. He is going to experience pain that is going to be so hard to bear.
Key words here are "trust" and "honesty"... Now unless your friend is a forgiving person... It's gonna be hard for him NOT to get suspicious of Amil, if he decides to work things out. Every unanswered/missed call towards Amil is gonna be questioned, Every time Amil is late for one of their quality time moments suspicion will arise, Every text he notice Amil get on his phone will raise more questions and ect.... When the trust is violated it's pretty hard to regain it back fully.
The best thing to do IMO is for both to just separate for maybe a couple weeks, few months until Amil decides what he wants.
It is very simple. The 22 year old is bisexual. The professor is not. At some point the two differences will matter too dam much so the professor should let him go be a bisexual. Don't get hurt over things you can't control. Dam professor!!
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