Wednesday, November 21, 2007

Goodbye my friend...

Goodbye my friend

(I know you're gone, you said you're gone but I can still feel you here)

It's not the end

(You gotta keep it strong before the pain turns into fear)

So glad we made it, time will never never ever change it!
-from "Goodbye," by the Spice Girls

Aaron is gone.

This blog began as a chronicle of my life with three roommates: Aaron, a former youth minister cum financial advisor, Chris, an intern, four years my junior, and Joe, my former boyfriend.

Over the course of one year, a lot has transpired. Joe moved out after an argument over a cable bill (and a few other bills) in January. Chris moved back to Alabama after his internship ended and then moved back to Atlanta in August. And now, Aaron has moved back to Los Angeles.

Aaron has been like a brother to me. He is a Pisces and I am a Scorpio. I don’t think we could have had a better roommate relationship. Or at least this was true until Aaron met Kali. (For more on Aaron’s back story, check out the following blog dates: Sept. 4, April 25, and Dec. 29.)

When Aaron started dating Kali (she was such a slutty cat), our relationship went south.

After Aaron’s break-up with Kali, he quit his job and went to visit his mother in California. While there, he reconnected with his old friend, Phil Wilson and was offered a great job with the Black AIDS institute. Needless to say, he took the job, came back to Atlanta to get his stuff, and left for Los Angeles last night. I really hoped we would have more time to reconnect, but time, like so many things in my life, is not on my side.

I am sad. It hurts to lose another friend.

I always assumed Aaron would not only be in my life, but would be in my home. If I needed a new tire, I knew Aaron would take care of it for me. If I forgot to pay the gas bill, I knew Aaron would take care of it for me. If I forgot to assemble some gift bags for work, I knew Aaron would take care of it for me. Whatever my problem, my pain, or my issue, I knew Aaron would be there. But now, he is gone and I don’t really know how my life will be without him.

I have cried about this a lot and I am crying about this now.

Joey, Aaron’s foster son, is spending Thanksgiving with me and Parker and Double Dees and the first family. We, Joey and I, are dealing with Aaron’s move together. There are some long days ahead. And my mess of a life seems a lost less important without Aaron by my side.


D-Place said...

Honor Aaron and show him that you can take care of yourself. Let him know that he was instrumental in your realizing what a real friend is.

BronzeBuckaroo said...

Sorry about Aaron. Every word of your pain is evident in your words. A friend is a friend and sometimes more I guess--a brother. You are going to grieve awhile. This is normal. In a little bit of time, you will be okay. Just don't let the distance separate a good friendship.

Anonymous said...

I love your writting Corey, but Aaron will realize what a good friend you was/are once the excitement of moving is over, my question to you do you think you would ever want Aaron to be your roommate again?

Corey Keith said...

Anonymous, I would want Aaron for a roommate again. I love him dearly. The problems we had came from his ex. I think we have both learned a lot from that experience.

C. Baptiste-Williams said...

Aaron sounds like your bitch... JUST JOKING.

I felt the same way when my bestfriend moved to San Diego for grad school but good friendships can last a few miles.

Anonymous said...

Corey, just from reading your blog, I feel that Aaron will be back at your door in 6 month or less, im sure the trip he took after his broke up with Kali he found another piece and thats who he's entertaining now, what do you think?

Corey Keith said...

LOL, Anonymous (or is this JOE!), I don't think that little tidbit was supposed to make the blog! And if this is Joe, I have no idea why you ditched us for Thanksgiving. The first family, with little Joey in hand, had a great weekend!

ZDK said...

At least you still have Parker!!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

No Corey this is not Joe, even though he sounds like an intresting person, but NO im not Joe, but im used to guys like "Aaron" so I was wondering what was your intake on his situation, do you think he will be back at your door in 6 months, when he's tired of smelling **** ass back home

Corey Keith said...

I would love to have Aaron home, or Joe home, or Chris home. I began the blog because of my love for all three of my roommates at the time. While I never wanted three roommates, life led me in that direction and I realized this was a great chance to chronicle what promised to be a great experience. However, I don't think Aaron will be back. I think he is excited about his new job and happy to be with his family. If he has some new booty, I hope it is good.

That Dude Right There said...

I think that my best friend was feeling like you when I left Birmingham for Chicago. But I made sure that we saw each other at least once every 2 months and that helped. But I guess what helped more was that I moved to Atlanta 5 months later.

I say all that to say that if Aaron and you want to, you 2 can remain close and don't have to end a friendship.