After the whirlwind month Parker experienced, we’ve decided he should move in earlier than planned.
We decided that living together would be a good idea last year when his lease was up in July. However, he was given the option to be let out early and he took the option. Parker is moving in within the next two weeks.
Thoughts, comments, and advice… um… needed.
11 comments:
God bless you! After having roommates I said I would never live with anyone every again...for the foreseeable future that is. But I've always had a problem with the idea of living with my dude. For me it may be the only child syndrome. I value and cherish my own space and I think that living with my significant other would actually do more harm than good. Conversely I've never been with someone whom I wanted to spend ALL my time with so that may just be it...I haven't met the 'one'.
Best of luck to you and my only advice to you two is to keep the lines of convo open and try not to slam the doors. LMAO.
~Damnit!
Follow your heart's words it will tell you what to do and what is the right choice for you luv.
You're going to be just fine man... enjoy it and allow for the natural progression to occur...
Awwwww...*daydreams for a moment*..awwwwww
No advice...but I do have a comment. Its hard when you have someone comes into your space. Not for you, but for him. Its still your place so for him, he may always kinda feel slightly on edge because the joint isn't equally the two of yours. Good luck though and keep all of us posted. We are all sorta living vicariously through you.
I think this is one of the ultimate steps we all underlyingly want to make when we are in a committed relationship. Seeing that your the home owner please use "Our's" and not "MINE" never in a argument say I will put you our of my house or I am providing a roof over your head. Give him a bill to pay so that he can fill that he is paying his part and not getting a free ride. Discuss finances and maybe even get a joint account. Something like the entertainment account.
Good luck. A new chapter in your relationship starts now.
That was great advice @ Voice of Reason!
~Damnit!
Congratulations, Corey. My most basic advice is to be hopeful. Yeah, moving in together can be intimidating and uncertain, but go forward and operate each day with the faith that this is the right thing to do, because you all are the right person for each other.
My other advice is to remember that you all are two different people, who likely live two different ways, and that's OK. Maybe you like to have the dishes done right after dinner, whereas Parker doesn't mind washing them a day or two later (or vice versa). Don't let small things like that interfere with the larger picture of you all's happiness. Some of his living habits will annoy you, and some of yours will annoy him. But make a genuine effort to not let those disagreements explode into more than they need to be. I think this is particularly true when dating someone younger — criticizing their way of doing things can be interpreted as the older partner saying "You don't know what you're doing, let me teach you." Even if that's not your intent, that's how it can be perceived. And even if that's not your intent, it's important to realize that none of us knows everything, and so just because our partner does something differently than we do, that does not mean he is immature or wrong.
Finally, as your last few posts prove, it's a rough world out there...Try to make sure that when your partner returns home from that rough world each day, your first interactions with him are loving and affirming. Y'all will have all night to argue about things! Make sure he knows off top why he's coming home to you.
Wishing you both all the best.
Thanks, thanks, thanks... so many great responses out there...
Darius, I will always keep you updated... even when Parker would prefer I didn't...
Voice, Parker is paying rent... don't get it twisted.. we in a recession.. love is great but a pound of love don't pay an ounce of bills...
Crazy, I have printed this page because of your comments and I taped a copy on my desk so that I will always be able to go back to your words of wisdom. Thank you.
I hope things are going much better for parker after all the drama. This is a big step...good luck
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